The Anxious Child

High expectations, less face-time with parents can leave today’s kids stressed

12 Tips to help ease your child’s anxiety:

  • Listen to your child’s thoughts/feelings
  • Don’t downplay/laugh at a child’s fears. Let them know everyone has fears and it’s possible to “boss back” fears.
  • Constant reassurance prevents children from learning to cope. Instead, encourage coping strategies (calm breathing or challenging scary thoughts).
  • Don’t let a child’s anxiety make you think something is too difficult. It might be challenging, but the child can do it. Acknowledge the anxiety, or a child may hide/intensify symptoms to get attention.
  • Help the child break down goals into smaller steps. Don’t push too fast; let the child pick his own pace.
  • Anxious kids try to duck stressful situations. Encourage them to take small steps toward facing fears.
  • Anxious children need to try new things and take some risks to build confidence and life skills.
  • Acknowledge a child’s attempt at facing her fears.
  • A child with anxiety problems does not have a green light for inappropriate behaviours. Set expectations/deliver consequences.
  • Curb excessive stress and tension in the home (arguing, too many activities).
  • Set specific times for meals, homework, quiet time and bed.
  • Give yourself some time out from the anxious child. React neutrally to situations.

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